The Crossroads of Choice: Navigating Life’s Decisions with Confidence

Our decisions guide us through life’s labyrinth in a world of choices, from the mundane to the life-altering. “The Crossroads of Choice” outlines how to use our power of choice to take control of our lives and realize our true destiny. This blog delves into the intricate interplay between our choices and the outcomes they bestow upon us, exploring the profound impact of OUR Power of Choice. Choices and our Power of Choice is an undercurrent theme of Rogues in Paradise. All characters are the product of their choices, which continue through the book and onward to tomorrow and the years to follow. It’s time to look at how to use our power of choice to gain control and live a meaningful and mindful life.  Maybe starting with the life lesson from The Rogues in Paradise.


Central Themes:

  1. The Paradox of Choice: As society offers an ever-expanding array of options, the paradox of choice emerges. While freedom of choice is liberating, the abundance of options often overwhelms, leading to decision paralysis and discontent. Through introspection and external guidance, the characters confront this paradox, learning to navigate the sea of choices with clarity and purpose.
  2. The Art of Decision-Making: Decisions, both big and small, shape the trajectory of our lives. Yet, the process of decision-making is as much an art as it is a science. Drawing from cognitive psychology and behavioral economics, the book unravels the mysteries of decision-making, illuminating the cognitive biases and heuristics that influence our choices. Through practical strategies and exercises, readers are empowered to cultivate a more deliberate and effective decision-making process.
  3. Self-Discovery and Authenticity: At the heart of decision-making lies the quest for self-discovery and authenticity. Often, our choices reflect our values, beliefs, and aspirations. However, societal expectations, fear of failure, and self-doubt can obscure our true desires, leading to decisions that betray our authentic selves. Through introspective exercises and narrative exploration, the characters embark on a journey of self-discovery, uncovering their passions, purpose, and inner strength.
  4. Embracing Uncertainty and Resilience: Despite our best efforts, the future remains uncertain. Decisions entail risks, and setbacks are inevitable. Yet, our resilience in the face of adversity defines our character. The book celebrates the strength of the human spirit, highlighting the transformative power of perseverance, adaptability, and optimism in overcoming life’s challenges.
  5. Community and Collaboration: While decisions are ultimately personal, the support of a nurturing community can offer invaluable guidance and perspective. Through the bonds of friendship, mentorship, and collective wisdom, the characters find solace and strength in their shared journey. The book emphasizes the importance of community in fostering personal growth, mutual empowerment, and collective progress.

Through rich storytelling, insightful wisdom, and practical guidance, “The Crossroads of Choice” serves as a beacon of light for those navigating the tumultuous terrain of decision-making. It invites readers to embrace the transformative power of choice, emboldening them to forge their own path with confidence, clarity, and conviction.

The upcoming book  of  Our Power of Choice will follow several characters each at their own crossroads, grappling with decisions that carry the weight of their aspirations, fears, and uncertainties. From the struggling artist contemplating the practicality of their passion to the corporate executive torn between ambition and authenticity, their stories intertwine to unveil the universal truths about decision-making.


Errol Griffiths’  10 Assetion of  The Power Of Choice

How to gain control of your life and destiny with YOUR Power of choice

1. “ *_I have_*, *You have* , *We ALL have* The Power Of Choice!”

2. “The *_only person_* in this world that I can control is *_ME_*!”

3. “ *_I am_* responsible for my _*every thought*_, *_every word_*, _*every action*_, and even _*my every feeling*_!”

4. “ *_I_* cannot control anyone or anything *_outside of me_*!”

5. “ _*Accepting*_ the truth about whom and what I cannot control, places me in a *_powerful position_* to *_respond wisely_* and not react in every circumstance!”

6. “ *_I_* can always seek to *_positively influence_* everyone and everything that I cannot control!”

7. “ *_I_* will make *_wise choices_*, every single time!”

8. “Whenever I recognise that I have made an unwise choice, I will *_forgive myself as quickly as possible_*, learn, get up and go again!”

9. “Whenever I recognise that others have made unwise CHOICES, I will *_forgive him or her as quickly as possible_*!”

10. “I will seek to *_LIVE, WORK & PLAY_* in *_PEACE_* with all others, at all times!”
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More about Errol – his heritage and African roots >>>>


I had a fascinating discussion this morning with Errol about forgiveness- I said that I could not forgive someone who had hurt someone very dear to me, ” are you sure you cannot forgive, or do you choose not to forgive?” Errol asked. Of course, it was my choice not to forgive. But of further discussion, I was aware that I had actually forgiven and moved on, but I still chose not to forget. The discussion led to the following clarification on what forgiveness is:

Knowing that you have forgiven someone can be challenging to pinpoint, as it can vary from person to person and situation to situation. However, here are some signs that you may have forgiven someone:

  1. Feeling at peace: You no longer feel consumed by anger, resentment, or bitterness when you think about the person who wronged you.
  2. Empathy and understanding: You can empathize with the person who hurt you and understand that they are fallible human beings capable of making mistakes.
  3. Letting go of grudges: You don’t dwell on the past or hold onto grudges against the person who hurt you. Instead, you focus on the present moment and the future.
  4. Willingness to move forward: You’re open to rebuilding trust and repairing the relationship if appropriate and possible, or you’re willing to move on and let go of the relationship if that’s what’s best for you.
  5. Feeling free: You experience a profound sense of relief as if a heavy weight has been lifted off your shoulders. This is the freedom and liberation you feel from the emotional burden you once carried because of the hurtful experience.
  6. Ability to wish them well: You have the power to want the person who hurt you well genuinely. You can hope they find peace and happiness in their lives, even if you’re no longer in contact with them. This is a testament to your strength and resilience.
  7. Not seeking revenge: You no longer need to seek revenge or retaliate against the person who wronged you. Instead, you focus on your own healing and growth.

Forgiveness is a process that takes time. It’s OK if you’re not able to forgive someone right away. It’s also OK to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist as you navigate the process of forgiveness.

Errol’s book on The Power of Choice will help people gain clarity as he reasons in through situations. It can be as deep as one wants and is a stepping stone to better understanding. I expect it will include many moments of clarity, like my experience on forgiveness, as he shares his experiences counseling others on our Power of Choice

The Actional Benifits of the Power of Choice


It is appropraite to focus on why, what  and benefits- You could aim  to position POC Principles/Maxims in a more benefits-focused and action-oriented way, you could rephrase them to highlight the advantages and emphasize actionable steps:

1. “Harness Your Power of Choice!”

Benefit: Gain control over your life’s direction and outcomes.

2. “Master Yourself, Master Your Destiny!”

Benefit: Empower yourself by focusing on what you can control—your thoughts, words, and actions.

3. “Own Your Responsibility for Your Life!”

Benefit: Take charge of your life’s direction by acknowledging your power over your thoughts, words, actions, and feelings.

4. “Embrace Your Sphere of Influence!”

Benefit: Recognize your ability to positively impact others and your environment.

5. “Find Strength in Acceptance!”

Benefit: Attain peace and resilience by accepting what you cannot control and choosing wise responses.

6.”Lead Through Positive Influence!”

Benefit: Inspire positive change in others and your surroundings through your actions and choices.

7. “Choose Wisdom Every Time!”

Benefit: Achieve better outcomes by consistently making wise decisions.

8. “Bounce Back from Mistakes with Grace!”

Benefit: Grow and improve by quickly forgiving yourself and learning from missteps.

9. “Extend Forgiveness to Others!”

Benefit: Foster healthier relationships and environments by letting go of resentments and judgments.

10. “Create Harmony in Your Interactions!”

Benefit: Cultivate peace and cooperation in your relationships and endeavors

Food for thought. I see this being a review of tour teaching, showing how it works and the tangible results of well-researched and mindful actions. I like Maxims as they succinctly encapsulate wisdom or guiding principles, which aligns perfectly with your purpose.